How to Win Support by Leading with Empathy and Heart

I want to talk about something special – Leading Family, how we can be leaders right in our own homes.

What Does Leading a Family Mean?

When we think about leaders, we often picture big bosses in offices or presidents of countries. But here is something amazing leadership can happen anywhere, even at home with your family.

Leadership is really about having good influence on people around you. This means everyone in your family can be a leader in some way. It does not matter if you are the mom, dad, big brother, little sister, or even the youngest child. You can still help guide your family in good ways.

Think about it like this: when you help your little brother learn to tie his shoes, you are leading. When you suggest a fun family game that everyone enjoys, you are leading. When you listen carefully to your mom when she has a hard day, you are leading too.

My Family Leadership Story

Let me share my own story with you. As I kept learning about leadership from John Maxwell’s books and lessons, I noticed something important. There were some leadership skills I could not practice well by myself, like really listening to others, showing that I care, and speaking in ways that help people.

So I decided to try these skills with my family first. My family became my safe place to learn and grow as a leader.

I grew up as the third child out of four kids in my family. We had two boys and two girls. I was not the oldest child, and I was not the first boy either. This meant I did not have any special title that would make people listen to me automatically.

But I learned something powerful. By using good leadership ideas over and over again, I could still influence my older brothers and sisters. I could even influence my parents sometimes! Not every single time, but when it really mattered.

One big example: I started family talks that helped us change our last name. In my culture, this is a very big deal! It took time and patience, but it worked.

Now that I have my own family with my wife and two daughters, I keep using these same ideas. They still work wonderfully.

Leadership Moment

After many times of trying and failing to lead well in my family, I learned some very important lessons. Let me share them with you:

Titles Do Not Mean Everything

Your family does not care how smart you are until they know how much you love them. If you are not there for them when they need help or comfort, you will have zero power to influence them. Being present and caring matters more than being the oldest or having any special title.

Listen More, Talk Less

Nobody likes the family member who talks all the time without stopping. I learned to listen more and make my family feel heard and understood. When they felt that I really cared about what they were saying, they became more willing to listen when I had something important to share.

Be a Fun Person

Since you spend so much time with your family every day, it is very important to be someone they enjoy being around. Smile often, laugh together, play games, and enjoy life!

Remember this simple truth: when you have touched their heart, you can ask for their hand to support.

Action Point

• This week, pick one family member and focus on really listening to them for at least 10 minutes each day. Put away your phone, look at them when they talk, and ask questions that show you care about what they are sharing. Watch how this simple act starts to build your influence and leadership in your home.

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I’ve often shared how much John Maxwell has shaped my leadership journey and now, I’d love to pass that impact on to you.

I’m giving you complimentary lifetime access to some of his most powerful books and resources, along with insights from other top thought leaders.

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